When speaking, the use of a well timed pause can be magical. It is an opportunity for the speaker and listener to fully connect. In the still, small space that is created -
the pause,
the speaker creates anticipation and suspense. The listener becomes alert, focussed and eager for what is coming next. A pause is a very powerful tool that can make the difference between a smooth, well paced, captivating speech or a rushed, garbled mess!
I remember coaching a man who had struggled with a stutter for most of his life. The strategy he'd use to not stutter was to speak really fast with no breaks between words or sentences. It was exhausting listening to him - trying to understand what he was saying and to keep up with the ideas or messages he was presenting.
He had great stories and he was excited to share them with the group I was coaching. After encouraging him to slow down his rate of speech and this not really working, I suddenly realised the key to helping him slow down was to build in pauses to his speeches. Not randomly placed, but strategically placed so he had an anchor of safety to hold onto.
Then it was about him trusting, as he slowed down for the pause, he may or may not stutter. And if he did, it was all ok. As a group, we would listen and support him regardless of his stutter. We welcomed and encouraged his pauses, even though he was terrified of losing control if he used them.
A transformation began to take place. As he experimented with using pauses and trusting he could use them without breaking out into stuttering, he became a different person. He began to engage more with his eyes. He became more connected with the group, with the audience. He felt more authentic as a speaker - he was able to let himself be fully seen and appreciated by the group. And he used pauses not just when he was giving a presentation but when he was speaking one to one. It was life changing for him.
Use pauses in your speaking:
- after the opening and before the closing remarks
- between different segments of your speech or presentation
- to indicate transitions in your speech from one idea, story, theme to another
- after a powerful statement or sentence that requires time for the audience to digest or understand
- for laughter or applause, or any spontaneous audience response
- for you to manage your nerves or pace
- to establish rapport and connection with your audience
- to help eliminate um's, ah's and other speech fillers
- to allow you to take a breath, establish eye contact and relax into your presentation.
The power of the pause is to be appreciated.