it read. On it was outlined some of the procedures that I could receive from a
whilst I drank champagne and ate hors-d’oeuvres.
Botox? And at a party with alcohol?
Maybe I’m old school or overly cautious, but if I was to even consider getting injected in my face with a substance made from a neurotoxin called Botulinum toxin, it would be in a clinic — sterile, professional and highly recommended.
I’m 55. People constantly tell me I look younger. Most weeks someone will comment on my skin, “You look
so vibrant, what do you use?”.
Or, “Have you had some work done?”
Of course, I feel flattered and appreciate the comments.
I take care of myself and I’ve always looked after my skin — I cleanse, use moisturiser, face tint with sunblock, hats and sunglasses in the sun. I drink a load of water, limited alcohol and coffee. I’m fit and exercise at least 4 times a week, get 8 hours sleep most nights and manage my stress levels by being vigilant about how much I ‘do’ every day.
Ten years ago I was offered a Botox treatment. I was beginning to notice fine lines developing at the corner of my eyes and on my forehead so it seemed timely. A friend booked us into a clinic, then I began to feel uneasy.
Was it safe to have Botox injections in my face?
How did I really feel about having some of my facial muscles temporarily paralysed?
What if I had an adverse reaction like drooping eyelids or unwanted paralysis in nearby muscles?
Wasn’t my plan to age gracefully — embracing my laughter lines and wrinkles as they formed?
I googled women who had Botox, before and after shots. It certainly made a difference, initially subtle.
Then I discovered images of women who had been using it for many years and other treatments like Restylane facial fillers and they looked terrible - puffy, bloated, smooth, plastic and ALL THE SAME. No expression, bland, boring faces.
Did I want to look like that?
No!
I cancelled my appointment.
I’m not against anyone doing what they feel is right for them and if its Botox, then go for it.
What I am dubious about is, why
are women doing it?
Is it the fear of getter older, looking less desirable and sexy, lined and wrinkled?
Is it the motivation to pretend we are something other than what we are — ageing women?
Is it pressure to conform to a standard of youthfulness so as to be seen as eternally young?
Are we seduced by the often unrealistic images of women portrayed by the media — movies, magazines?
Airbrushed perfection, glacial smoothness.
Or we do it because its what our friends do, what other women do, what is now seen as an increasingly ‘normal’ experience for many women?
I have a friend who is battling stage 4 cancer.
18 months ago her body was riddled with tumours and she was given a few months to live.
She is still alive, deeply caring for and nurturing her body. Clean eating, fresh, organic whole food combined with a protocol of traditional and alternative treatments to help her to live.
It’s been an incredibly stressful time and her face has aged. She now has deeper lines and wrinkles around her eyes and mouth. Amazingly, she looks younger. Her energy is clear and she radiates health and vitality, even though she’s fighting cancer.
What’s remarkable to me is that nowhere in her protocol for ‘living’ is there a special place reserved for Botox treatments to cover up and hide her ageing face. The developing lines and wrinkles are just not important and actually add to her beauty and radiance. Her spirit to live is strong and it creates the youthful vitality that shines so powerfully from her.
When faced with her mortality, only the most essential things for her survival, joy and happiness are maintained.
I don't believe Botox injections is one of them.
I was walking with a friend today sharing my ideas for a story about Botox. I had a rant about how I was so against it and why are women so foolish as to think its a good idea and why do women submit to doing crazy things for the sake of beauty, or fear of getting old etc, etc…
My friend gently pulled me up and asked if I dye my hair.
Well..yes, but I use organic hair dye.
She then told me how recent studies are linking hair dye to causing cancer and I have to be careful not to judge and castigate others for their choice to use Botox when I’m also making choices that could be potentially harmful to my body.
Why am I dying my hair?
Fear of looking old? Not appearing youthful? Being less desirable?
YES.
Actually, I just feel better with dark hair — I have some silvery, grey streaks coming through which I am loving but I’m not ready to go completely grey!
So yes, yes, yes I want to keep looking and feeling as youthful as I can.
Which I guess is how women getting botox must feel!
Botox is not for me and no thanks, I don’t want to attend any Botox parties.
There are some things I draw the line at and voluntarily paralysing facial muscles to hide lines and wrinkles is one of them.